Has anything bad ever happened to you? Something completely overwhelming? Most of us would answer ‘yes’ to this question. So how do we get through it? Why do some people seem to thrive while others quit or crumble? This blog will provide tips and tidbits on the psychology of resiliency; on how to thrive in the face of adversity.
First: What is resiliency? The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines resilience as “the ability to become strong, healthy or successful again after something bad happens”. The American Psychological Association explains “Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors. It means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences”.
Licensed psychologists recognize the importance of resilience in adapting to stress, trauma, change, loss, tragedy, adversity, etc. So how do we begin not only to cope, but survive and then learn to thrive? Below is a partial list tips:
- Take one day at a time. Sometimes, one hour at a time (or even less).
- Avoid dwelling on the past, What is done, is done.
- Do what you can to correct or remedy the situation.
- Recognize and focus on that which you can control. Surrender the rest (remember the serenity prayer?).
- Look to the future.
- Activate your support system and use it!
- Face the challenge head on.
- Learn from the past.
- Maintain proper perspective.
- Remember your successes
- Focus on what you want to happen
- Don’t let fear or grief control you
- Draw upon your faith for strength
- Practice self care
- Never, ever give up!